How to pursuade someone to lose weight?
My fiance and I are getting married in May. I love him with all my heart. I’m a bit of a health freak though and he agree’s he’s a little overweight but doesn’t really try. I always tell him that I’m "concerned with his health" and his parents both developed diabetes a few years ago from not eating well. I’ve also gotten somewhat firm with him at times but it just makes him more depressed!
I really want him to be happy with himself and be healthy, but no matter what I do he just can’t do it. He was on Weight Watchers for a little while but he always goes off of it. He only needs to lose like 10-20lbs. I’ve tried Dieting with him, and motivating him but I’ll still find him occassionaly sneaking cookies or something.
It just makes me sad. What can I do without being mean?
EMAIL natveggie77@yahoo.com if you’d like.
There is nothing you can do. My question is this. How do you know he is not happy with himself now? It sounds like there is only one person in your relationship that has a problem with his weight and that is you. If he WANTS to lose weight then he will work for it. But all he sees now is that his fiance thinks he is fat.
May 26th, 2010 at 6:23 pm
There is nothing you can do. My question is this. How do you know he is not happy with himself now? It sounds like there is only one person in your relationship that has a problem with his weight and that is you. If he WANTS to lose weight then he will work for it. But all he sees now is that his fiance thinks he is fat.
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May 26th, 2010 at 6:44 pm
You cannot make the decision for him to lose weight. You can maybe convince him to diet, but it won’t work, he will most likely gain it all back if not more. The only way that he will successfully lose the weight and adapt a healthy lifestyle is if he decides for himself that he WANTS to be healthy and live in a way that will help his body rather than hurt it. All you can do is offer support and maybe give him some information on his options and some facts on how his current lifestyle might negatively effect his and your future (heart disease, diabetes, fertility issues, etc.) Sorry that’s probably not the answer you wanted, but the only way he is going to change is by his own motives.
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May 26th, 2010 at 7:15 pm
10-20 lbs. is not that bad. Get a pet doggie & have him go take it for walks or buy him a bike.
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May 26th, 2010 at 7:52 pm
your only making him feel bad about himself….
Your obviously a control freak….he would be happier without you.
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